Yes, my Mother and I joked on the phone about about her getting to 90, like her two sisters, two days after her 89th birthday, 24 hours later she collapsed on the bathroom floor, her innings was over.
Then I got that dreaded phone call from my brother.
Had she not, today she would have been 90.
I never knew her as she looked in this photo. I hadn’t seen her for 17 years, the last time I was in NZ. I remember her as a younger person, a vital person.
So today is not an easy day for me. I had a restless night, I was up several times, most of my day’s blogging was done about 3am.
With my blogging completed, my day is already different. I was out watering my plants early before the sun had risen too high. I had to, because of the earlier than usual class yesterday, they didn’t get their evening watering.
Yesterday was hot as I said yesterday, today the forecast is for even hotter, so I may look for an air conditioned restaurant and while away the day in the company of a bottle of chilled sauvignon blanc, it’s the only sensible thing to do. Not to get drunk and forget about the significance of the day, I don’t do that; but a bottle of chilled wine merely goes wonderfully with a meal on a hot day.
Later.
Remember the good times, AV and honour her passing. It’s hard when we lose our parents. It’s good that your last call was an upbeat one. Raise a glass to her today.
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>Andrew, good advice. I did raise a glass for her birthday.
AV
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Ten years later it gets easier.
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>rough, my father passed away 21 years ago, I agree it gets easier to handle the idea.
AV
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Mine died within 18 months of each other. Not sure whether that made it easier or not. Perhaps it did.
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My mother was obedient to the last. My father had said to her don’t you dare go before me, because I can’t fend for myself.
AV
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Must be a man thing, mine said virtually the same. ‘Please let me go first.’ having said that, I’d also be happy to go first.
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It was good that it was quick and sudden. That’s how I want to go.
Happy birthday to her. She looks like a happy soul.
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>Rachel, yes, it was a very sudden thing. She was a happy soul, rarely had a bad thought.
I would hate a lingering death, that is what I am most afraid of, not death itself.
AV
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anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas etc, I find those days the most difficult without “them”… but I am sure they want “us” to carry on..
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>OAiC, that’s so true. Life must go on.
AV
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So sorry for you loss AV. Will keep you in my thoughts, hang in there friend and hopefully the weather will cool down some for you.
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>Night, thank you, appreciated. Life must go on, even in this heat.
AV
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